Thats a tough one and pastors do have a tendency to make you feel guilty, lol. I don’t think you should tell people what you made, because they see that number without seeing how much it cost you in materials, table costs, how much you spent on your display … you may have made more than other crafters, but you may have spent more on materials than they did too and a lot of times people don’t understand that, so I think your are right not to tell what you made 
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You have every right not to disclose your profits. It was a rude response on his part to tell you that you were rude. You’re doing great things! Keep going.
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Just want to add that you should actually talk about salary, especially with your coworkers.
The only ones profiting from people thinking it’s rude or secret are the people paying your wages.
If we keep our wages secret the people in charge will keep getting away with not paying everyone equal wages for the same work and experience. Being open with our colleagues about our wages will profit us (the working class) and that’s why we are told it’s rude.
However, it’s up to you if you don’t want to share what your profits were in this case, and declining to tell someone isn’t necessarily rude.
I don’t think asking someone how much they made is rude either, as long as you respect them when they don’t want to tell you.
But accepting a “no” isn’t something people in the church are well known for, so 
Sorry for the rant 
Tldr Asking about profits is not rude, and wanting to keep it private isn’t rude either, but asking and not respecting that you don’t want to answer is rude and a red flag.
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It’s not rude! Everyone’s privacy should be respected, and you just happen to want that to be private. Ask them how much they paid for something ridiculous. Ask how much they make. They will surely respect your privacy then. I usually don’t say much about money I get, because all of a sudden, you are the go to for loans, donations, and all sorts of things. You worked hard for what you get, so you should do whatever you want.
Sorry for rambling. I get upset at this type of stuff sometimes.
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I don’t think either of you are being rude. I understand that though lol
I have had to do the same thing. I just said I did really well, not a specific #
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Well for me that hasn’t done a market yet, I do like to ask people abt how much they made, but that’s if they are already talking abt it and sharing details. 
So it is up to u to say how much money or not, u could always just lie lol. And to ur other point, I also do like to ask people how much they make for their job, if they are open to saying it, and if I am actually interested. For me, I don’t have a problem telling people abt how much I sell for my crochet, bcs I don’t really care honestly. But u are open to ur beliefs and I don’t think that either of u were being rude, i think it was just a conversation
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Unfortunately, a lot of people don’t value crafting, especially crafting done mostly by women. I’m worried this may be stemming from that and it’s a misogynistic attitude that really makes me angry. In addition to it not being socially acceptable to ask how much money one makes in the US (unsure of other countries/cultures), it’s rude to ask people what they make as it questions the value of your work and craft. I like to say that crochet can only be done by hand, there are no machines that can do it (I think this is because it’s so complex compared to knitting but I could be wrong) and that every single stitch (pointing to a stitch) was formed with my own hands. Knit socks, for example, have like 20,000 individual stitches on average PER SOCK. If that fails to impress ask them to try a simple chain (many adults that don’t have built up hand dexterity from another hobby often really struggle even with a chain). I also admit that I’m not the best at keeping everything clean when I’m working, but I always wash the final product before gifting it (just a tip for the other maybe slightly disorganized folks here lol).
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All great points! Also, joining a union if it’s available to you is a way to have more power, especially with larger, often corporate, employers. This is the reason you won’t see many of them WITH unions. I was only able to join a union for the first time when I was in grad school and I’ve been working since I was 11 (I’m almost 39).
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