This was from so many months ago but I can’t stop thinking about it. I was doing a table at an art sale, and this woman walked over to my table. She started talking to me and telling me her daughter could make everything at my table. She then asked me if she could take a picture of my stuff. I had kinda just mumbled yes because I was really just wanting her to go away. I feel like she was in the wrong. I know I could have said no but she was making me feel uncomfortable and defeated. I understand so many people crochet and have the ability to follow crochet patterns, but I feel it was wrong to tell me,a 14 year old at the time, that her adult daughter was able to make everything that I had poured weeks of my time into. And I’m still upset that she has a picture of my exact set up . Maybe I’m overthinking it. Please let me know what you think.
What it was, is rude. But those kinds of people are everywhere, all the time. Of course her daughter could do it, lots of people could do it, but you did do it.
I spent 30 years as a hairstylist being told at least once a day how easy my job must be because anyone can do it, they even sell the stuff at the the grocery store. You just have to accept that some people are unhappy and can’t stand to see other people out there just living their lives instead of being bitter unhappy people too.
Tons of people go sell crochet at craft fairs and events all of the time. Her daughter could too. But she should have done the research herself. I’ve searched everywhere to find all of the patterns that I use. I have some from every website. It was just disappointing that now she has a picture of everything I had to sell that day. And if we were at the same event could potentially have all of the same products. I love seeing other crochet tables, but I don’t go out of my way to copy them.
This was also my first time at an event that I was selling at.
I highly doubt her daughter gave the pictures a second look
She knows what her mom is like and if she does this too, she has her own thing going on
Yeah no it’s not ok to approach people like that. That’s quite a rude thing to do. At the time when I did markets and such, there was always the person coming to tell me “it’s too expensive for what it is sorry I’m not gonna buy it” or “that’s easy to make tho I could do it myself” well, as the song goes, “It costs that much cause it takes me ******* hours”. People would do well not to forget that song 
When that happens to me, still bothers me after quite awhile. I’ve learned to pay attention to that because I can learn something from it. .
I bet you were uncomfortable with that lady before she even opened her mouth. When you get that feeling again, perk up, and realize you need to pay attention to that situation and behave intentionally. I mean intentionally, not out of habit, not out of what is socially appropriate, and not out of one’s broken ness.
I highly recommend this book.
That lady used intimidation which is related to fear.
That lady was out of order. Don’t you worry about what others could do. Remember you DID. You put yourself out there with your time and attention.
Ok so that lady’s got a picture of that table but you have new ideas and no one can do what you do in your way.
Rude people are everywhere please continue being you
Good luck with your next sale xx
You are not wrong
I’d have probably been rude and hit her with something along the lines of “I’m so sorry your daughter takes part in art theft, I’m sure as she gets better at her art she’ll gain the confidence to stop the theft. We all start somewhere”
I am very intolerant to this kind of person putting out their horrible opinions and being passive aggressive is my natural go to.
You were very gracious and should only feel good about showing such kindness to someone stood being so rude to you.
I’m sorry but if anyone could be a hair stylist, they would be. We wouldn’t go spend a fortune sometimes, to get some of our hair cut off if they weren’t gonna make it look a million times better than we can at home. Some people will just say anything to try and get a rise out others or undermine them.
Oh gosh this happened to me a few months ago at a craft fair as well.
The lady complimented me for a few minutes, and then informed me that her daughter could do it, and then asked if she could take pictures. I was so shocked at the request and didn’t want to come off as rude, I said yes.
After reading everything in this post, in the future I’m definitely gonna say no.
I’m sorry this happened to you!
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People don’t seem to have a clue that they are behaving like selfish brats who never grew up,
Reminds me of the blueberry Girl in Willy Wonka.
Violet beauregarde is Queen of entitlement. Such a good example
Varuca was “I want it, and I want it now” , Violet was “I’m better than you”
I think she was a little bit of both 
I said that these people were unhappy, but that’s a simplistic answer. When you come across people like this, they usually are very unfulfilled in their own life. You get a career woman putting down a stay at home mom because deep down she has to justify her choice to work. You get a dull corporate drone putting down an artist because deep down they have to reassure themselves that they didn’t give up their own art. That sort of thing.
What came to my mind is “Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.”
But still. My favorite craft fair was the one that said “no cameras”.
I always share my booth pictures online so they could get them there too. I saw a sign once that said “I know you can make it, but will you?”
My booth is different than most. I try to show many variations of what I do and offer to make custom items for them. I like to encourage other crafters. Mostly, I sit outside and crochet. I would love if they sat with me and crocheted too.
But, I am retired and do this for a hobby.
Don’t let it bother you any more is easy to say. (If you were my daughter, or more likely granddaughter, I would tell you to pray for her). 