Good morning , today’s question is:
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
Here we go:
If I could change something, it would be that I didn’t have acne.
How about you?
Shoutout to @Abigailtheweirdo
A MILLION THINGS! I would change that I wasnt so emotional, didn’t have social anxiety, wasnt so naive, dumb, ugly, caring too much, worrying what others think about me, and getting too attached to people (mostly female teachers or older females who treat me nicely cuz Mom issues
) just to name a few </3 (edit: i made a spelling error and had to edit)
A lot of things, but if I had to pick one it would be that i didn’t have anxiety. It rules my life and I hate it
everything, but most probably my awareness, i can smell and hear stuff rlly good, i can tell what emotion someone rlly is, and i wish i couldnt find where a picture is in like 2 minutes ;-; and im “good” with faces
I wish I could change my DANG NOSE ACNE
hmm my shortness lol
Probably my acne aswell
Ummmm getting a personality
Sounds like me as a teenager.
Mom issues, if you’re not able to get your needs for nurture met by your mother for whatever reason ( it doesn’t matter) it is perfectly normal to get those nurture needs met by someone else. It just needs to be a someone who has your best interests in mind, is willing to guide you to your next step/stage of development, willing to point out unhelpful ways of behavior or thinking, and “speaks” in your love language( book the 5 love languages).
I got a lot of the nurture “void” met by my late husband of 30 years. That’s why I said someone and not restricting it to a female. I’d get so angry or crying and he’d just give me a hug and tell me everything will be ok.
I hated myself as a teenager because I did feel things deeply and people would tell me “You’re too much” “why you gotta be so emotional about everything” “ you’re loud and over the top” “ why you so sensitive”! so on.
All this means is that you do feel things deeply. It’s a part of who you are, embrace it. Cry and cry at a beautiful picture, or when someone has hurt your feelings. Then you’re more free to laugh and laugh.
I have had people tell me I’m so gullible and or naive . I thought a lot of it was due to my hearing loss because there was so much going on that I clueless about. No, it’s deeper than that . I’ll bet people tell you you’re too trusting, too trusting too fast, or people take advantage of you. The deeper issue is that you still see the wonder, the innocence, the purity of Gods creation. You assume people feel the same as you when the truth is they let that sense of wonder die- and it’s way too painful to resurrect it.
It’s good you have crochet, you may feel a desire to try other art forms such as painting, journaling , writing poems/ songs. Etc.
These characteristics of you demand that you set healthy boundaries with others. There will be those who will take advantage of your naïveté, thus you need to educate yourself on red flags. There will be those who are jealous and will actively seek to squash these parts of you. Those are the toxic people you cannot allow into your heart. You must guard against sharing anything but pleasantries with these people.
Actively seek out and develop relationships with people who see that you are a Diamond in the rough and delight in you.
Some may think this is all corny, if so, this is not for them. This is for my sisters who feel deeply.
@LittleCreatures
Umm. Well irl I have kinda a bit of a mustache sort of, and I get rlly self conscious of it…So yeah that’s what I want to change.
So you can “read” people?
While I don’t wish to stick my nose in anyone’s business; this ability comes to those who have experienced trauma or chronic trauma as a child.
No its just that sometimes I don’t show personality because I feel like people dont like me for me in my school and stuff but maybe thats just part of high school
Idk probably bc i hide all my emotions lol
Ummm probably being so aware of everything all the time but still remaining unaware and stupid.
Also wish I had the ability to retain information. As well as so so many other things
it would be that i wasn’t so shy and sensitive about things.
Like everyone is saying, I wish I was less shy and anxious. I’m slowly getting better but it’s been a long journey considering my own mom wasn’t as nurturing as I needed. I always felt like I wasn’t good enough.
i dont want to listen everything
legit everything about myself :,)
There is nothing wrong with being sensitive. The problem is the other people who are uncomfortable with it.
See, when people don’t understand something they blame the victim.
The only thing I want to change, is actually huge.
I just want to be healthy again so I can play with my kids, walk with my dogs and go to work…
Impossible to change this