you know what? you do you and don’t let anyone else’s opinions change who you are. you do what makes you feel good in your own skin 
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you could be gender fluid, non binary, trans masc or fem, there’s a lot of options but you have a long time to figure it out!
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I think I’m either nonbinary or female with masc and nonbinary tendencies. Imma go with nonbinary for now so they/them for now.
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If you dont like it then you are welcome to scroll past. I believe people are allowed to post off topic things here.
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If you are not comfortable with what I am posting, you can choose not to read it. It is unkind and unhelpful to put others down because of how they feel. There are groups, tags, and communities on here that are there for a reason and are perfectly allowed to post how they feel. I am not mad or upset, but once again, if you don’t agree with or don’t like the things that I or others post, you can pay attention to the topics you would prefer. I am not asking for counseling. If I need it, I will ask my therapist. I simply wanted to reach out about how I am feeling which I believe is perfectly fine. It is not inappropriate. You are perfectly allowed to feel and post what you want, and so am I and everyone else here! I hope the rest of your day or night goes great!
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I grew up very much the Tom boy but also loved girly things. When pupwrry hit I liked wearing baggy clothes and looking more like a boy. It took me a long time to he comfort with my female body and yet I always felt more comfortable around boys.
I never quite felt like I fit in anywhere but eventually I just got used to this feeling and realized I actually fit in in a lot of different spaces even though not all of them fit quite right for me. I dated boys but always found girls attractive. I have realized just recently that I think much more like a man than I do a woman which is probably why I had a lot of guy friends and also why I confused the men I dated by not being what they typically expected.
I think the problem with society today is they expect everything to have a label. We all need to be defined as “something.” This was never a thing as I was growing up. I didn’t need to find my box to check or pick something to identify as. I had the freedom to just be and expand and change as I matured. At 45 I am now very comfortable with myself. I am a woman who thinks like a man with a boyfriend who sometimes treats me like his best bro. We are attracted to similar females on tv and he knows which guy celebrities I crush on. I am completely different than what he is used to but that’s also why we work so well together. Luckily I have that understanding from someone but honestly it’s not hard to find if you are just being authentic with how you feel and not trying to force things.
It is okay to be as you are and remain undefined. It might even be better. Let your style change and your hair change at will. It’s all just window dressing anyway and applied for how you are feeling in the moment. Give yourself room to breathe and don’t force an identity. It will feel a lot more natural and fluid. If someone asks you what you are or what you identify as tell them I identify as “me” and make no apologies for that. The feeling changes depending on your mood and hormones or even the weather sometimes. Best to just embrace it as the day comes. If someone asked me to pick a label for myself today I wouldn’t know what to put down. It isn’t important to me to be defined as anything. It’s nobodies business. I am me and that’s enough and that fits me every single day. Be you and happily embrace whoever you are on any given day. We have the freedom to do that now. You will hopefully, eventually, find that fitting into your own space is what is most important and fitting in everywhere else becomes less important.
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Well I took your advice (and a few others) and I cut my hair. I’ve been cutting hair for years but never my own. I think it turned out good. It makes me happy:
Ignore the messed up makeup lol I’m too lazy to wash it rn.
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- Ribblr is supposed to be a place where you can also talk about personal stuff, that’s why it’s in the general chat
- That is really rude. If you have a problem with them, maybe don’t look at what they post?
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you look beautiful! do what makes you feel good! <3
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…and I think you’re just homophobic :3
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omg you’re gorgeous
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Aww thank you :3
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If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it.
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You’re so pretty 
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Aww thank you sm :3
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Some people (like myself) like to have a term to make it easier for other people to understand! It may not be the exact same as what I have/feel (like anxiety; very broad term) but no term does. Sorry for the rant It’s late and I felt like writing :)
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I don’t know much about this topic but it hurts my heart to hear how this is making you feel. For what it’s worth just identify with being an awesome individual. I think you are pretty awesome for having the courage to speak about what you are experiencing. I hope you find the help need.
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