Guys so I’m my venting I have mentioned this girl that I don’t know how to drop and I have realised that there is know maybe something wrong with me and thank you this amazing community I kinda have realised that like usually if I don’t do what she wants or I don’t do things in time she’ll getad at me so I try to be fast and I’m scared to share but when I test and it’s like 6 days from the due date I get worried I might get in trouble but you guys have helped me remove some of that stress that has been in me like I’m too scared to not listen when I say what I actually like I’m scared of getting judged but you guys actually care when I can’t do something cause something has come up I get scared to back out but you guys have helped but I’m still scared like I can’t not be a people pleaser pls I need some help
You can either do one of two things:
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Tell her directly and with kindness that you are no longer interested in a relationship with her. Then walk away, if she tries to re engage you in the future. Block and ignore her. Ignore any guilt tripping, or any other manipulation from her if that occurs. change your path so you’re not walking where she is if possible. Do not make eye contact. Change your number, block in all social media. I think she is not going to give up that easy because she losing “ a slave”. No offense intended.
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Do all of above but don’t tell her.
I’m scared too cause she’s like popular so her other friends aka my bestie bestie might turn on me and other people
That sounds super difficult. I was in a similar situation before, but it wasn’t nearly as bad and I got lucky because she moved schools and ended up moving less than a year later. My advice if she’s like really popular and makes you this stressed, is to go along with what @anoswaldoddity said (which was really good advice) and straight up tell her that she is putting you in difficult positions and you don’t want to be in those positions or in a relationship with her. You don’t have to be a people pleaser. If you do talk to her, since you said she has a bunch of people who would be on her side, I would be careful not to say anything that would make her think that you thought you were better than her, and also, if your best friend turns on you just bc some rude popular girl told her things abt you, then she doesn’t deserve your attention. She’s not your friend. Ik, letting go of a rly close friend like that is super super hard, but that’s what is needed sometimes. (Ik it’s a really big paragraph but that’s my advice 
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Tysm
You’re welcome