Venting/ any tips to cope?

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(I know that this space is meant more for mental illness, but I really need to say this)

So, a while ago I lost a bunch of my classmates from a very tragic incident(I will not specify what it was because it really hurts to think about it). It was all over my local news station, and people were commenting on it without knowing the full story and it really ticked me off.

Now, I feel like that everything has felt off after that. For the rest of that year, it was kinda awkward after the incident and I was just stewing about the whole thing. About the suspect (who I knew, by the way) and the victims. And now I’m also scared that that could happen to me one day, when I’m just walking on the street or something.

I’m also angry that again, people were talking about this incident, and “how could the suspect’s parents be so careless”, and blah blah blah. They didn’t know who they were. They didn’t know that they WEREN’T terrible parents (I knew them too).

They didn’t know about the family drama that had been going on. They probably didn’t know they even EXISTED until they show up on the news, and the first thing they do is CRITICIZE THEM!

(And by the way, if you know what I’m talking about, NO, they did NOT abuse their kids. Those kids were the liveliest kids I’ve ever met, and they were healthy and happy and loved).

I don’t really know what my problem is, I just know that this has been on my chest for awhile and I kinda need someone to vent to.

So, if you’ve read this far, thanks for listening. It means a lot to me :)

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im so sorry for u :sob::sob::people_hugging: it’s ok! we’re here for u so if telling someone helps, u know who u can come to well… i might be kinda awkward tho but still :3

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Yea I think this would fit in this space. This is therapy level trauma.

Unfortunately people often feel the need to assume a situation that they read a short article about give their 5 cents on it like that knew all along. In that same logic there’s always things you don’t know about the situation that only the people involved would know. Emotions are complicated and when things compound irrational decisions can be made. I don’t know the situation but I find more often peers are more the cause the tipping point of a bad situation than specifically the home life.

My brother recently had a neighbor that went AWOL and he still doesn’t know what exactly happened. He’s known them for a couple years now and their kids played together all the time before they both went off and went on a crime spree in two different locations while abandoning their kid states away from their home. He’s still freaked out by the fact that he had so much trust in them and they seemed like perfectly normal and reasonable people. Thankfully nothing bad happened to his family but it was too close to home for him. One of them actually called his wife in the middle of the chaos and randomly gave her the security code for their house. She had no idea why because it was so strange then saw the news later.

My brother is a fully grown adult and in the military so even he has anxiety after that experience. Not sure that gives you confidence in people any more but you need to realize that your feelings are fully valid. It’s a hard thing to handle and if it’s possible to talk to a therapist or even a counselor about it, I would suggest doing that. Do your best to treat people well and they’re not likely to harm you. Sometimes that kindness can be enough to help someone keep it together but not always. We’re all complicated and have many things we don’t show to other people.

I hope this helped in some capacity. :confounded_face: Sorry for the long reply.

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I’m so sorry, you brought up some excellent thoughts .

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Thanks for your input. I’m really sorry that happened to your brother.

Also, no worries about the long reply! It was helpful to read this.

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Just so you know, you’re not alone. I worry about that sometimes too.

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